Loneliness

katma 17 Feb 2019
Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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'Emotional First Aid' by Guy Winch
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'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick
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  • We designed a poster on this topic as well. You can find it here: standard.tv/collections/in-a-nutshell/products/in-a-nutshell-loneliness-poster

    • Kurzgesagt - In a Nutshell you guys didn’t mention meditation at all

    • Kurzgesagt - In a Nutshell YOU REALLY DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT “loneliness” IS... YOU REALLY DONT 🙄🙄🙄

    • where did you get your research please?

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  • #1 on trending well done Kurzgesagt! Great video as always

  • *Im litterly watching this in my bed wile felling lonely*

  • I’m cool with going to the movies by myself, DO I WANT TO GO TO THE MOVIES BY MYSELF???? FUCK NOO

  • it's way too accurate...

  • Another thing that really helps with loneliness is meditation.

  • Seeking professional is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of determination to better yourself. Don't be ashamed, be proud.

  • Tfw still no gf

  • This is a great video! And an honest and realistic counter to a serious issue going around the globe right now! Thank you Kursgesagt!

  • Beautifully explained and conveyed.

  • Great work. I can see people suffering this, video is going to help them for sure.

  • OMG, this is more scary than a horror film.

  • I mostly don’t socialize because I have had major anxiety my entire life and always feel like someone I started to talk to will talk about me behind my back and it triggers my anxiety so I’m always scared to talk to someone

  • Kurzgesagt is #1 trending, let's gooooo!

  • _Why am I crying right now_

  • Y'all ain't sad stfu

  • The internet isn't human interaction.

  • This video was too LOUD

  • I feel attacked.

  • 3 Most Difficult Things to do in the world 1. You Can't Count Your Hair 2. You Can't wash your eyes With Soap 3. You Can't breathe when your tongue is out. Now Please Take your tongue back inside You look like a dog

  • PLEASE TRANSLATE IN FRENCH PLEASE ☹️

  • Representa prednisona para que sitv

  • 0:00 is that Kumatora from mother 3?

  • Finally, a video about me on the trending page

  • This video just told me all the things I feel regularly these days. Thank you kurzgesagt. I hope I come out of this.

  • The part about worrying about people more but understanding them less really resonated with me! I used to be super lonely in high school and though I thought about my daily interactions everyday I couldn't make sense of them at all, and worried about their meaning. Now in uni I've become a lot more open and I worry a lot less about what other people, because I feel like I understand them more and have come to know that the world isn't as hostile as I once thought and, deep down everyone just wants to be friends.

  • Thank you for this video. I happened to find it in my sub box at the right time in my life

  • #1 on trending

  • ITS ME

  • Venezuela in a nutshell. Too many robers and bad thigh's over here some guys here to be paranoid's and distrust full

  • Just listen to true metal and everything's gonna be alright. Trust me :)

  • Now I know why this is on the trending page :oo Cuz most people are lonely even if they have multiple friends or fame.

  • No Arabic translate

  • Was the thumbnail like a reference to “Bleach” with the hole in the center

  • You're not the only one

  • Im not lonely I have fortnite

  • F U C K I always thought that I was between cynical and optimist, but now I see that I'm just a loner... A fat, ugly, incredibly annoying loner bastard. Feels weird :/

  • *JUSTICE FOR MAX!*

  • At least I’m not the only one who is alone…

  • PEOPLE ARE LONELY BECAUSE THEY CHOOSE TO BE LONELY.

  • People generally see loneliness as a bad thing and they are terrified to even thing about it. They thing that when you're lonely, you have a sad life. Nobody likes you. You have no friends, no girlfriend or boyfriend, and you just look miserable and depressed. And when you say that you're lonely, they are sorry for you, and that's THE BIGGEST PROBLEM. There is nothing wrong with loneliness, it just depends on your perspective, the way you see and think about it. It will certainly hurts your feelings, your mood, if you believe that it's a bad thing. And it's due to your interactions with people, the society and the influences that are with. But I can tell you that the society is wrong. I think that loneliness can be a good thing, if you take it as an advantage. In fact when you are lonely, you have more time to think about yourself, what you did good or wrong and how to improve it. You can analyze your behavior, your brain, to make things clear. You can re-organized your thoughts. You also have the time to think more and effectively. You can have a general idea on how people behave with you and each other, be more open-minded and control your feelings. You have more time to read, learn more, develop good habits and skills that people generally don't have. The best piece of advice I can give to someone is to spend time with your family, believe it or not, family is IMPORTANT, even if you have shitty brothers or sisters. And I'm not talking about blood, but people you love, because whatever the situation, your family will be there and support you. (I know some people can't support that, but your first enemy is social media, so if you can stop it, you are half saved) I wrote it by myself haha I hope it's not too long😅.If you have any questions you can ask me no problem! Thanks for reading! 😁

  • So glad Kurzgesagt creates videos like these to shine a light on topics that are often misunderstood and private to most people.

  • THIS IS FOR THOSE PEOPLE THAT HAVE LOST TOUCH WITH HUMANS ...U KNOW WHO U ARE ..BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, WE KNOW WHO U ARE..

  • The problem is with our society and our self centeredness! Political correctness, entitlement, no one owes us anything no one can guarantee anything nothing is for free and if they tell you any different you are being tricked into giving up something like your freedom! Think! Are you healthy? Give thanks! Do you have a roof over your head and food to eat? Be thankful many don't! Loneliness is an optional feeling. Life can get worse but there's never any insurance that it will get better. Try prayer. Do not use anti-depressants! They will kill you or turn you into a zombie.

  • I love being alone, FUCK FRIENDS

  • I'm always lonely and I'm still

  • Isolation is the worst thing

  • One good ass video

  • *And Netflix* тнєяєѕ ʝυѕт иσ єиσυgн тιмє!

  • This make me want to kill meself.

  • I’m switching schools after this year. I’m leaving behind a friend group I’ve had for 5 years. This video was a good heads up.

  • “It’s because you’re on that phone all the damn time”

  • My thing is that I wouldn't care if I thought that everyone had good intentions and I was extremely proud of myself I still wouldn't want a bunch of friends because I just don't like the obligation. I don't want people calling me or asking me to go to places. Because of the whole obligation factor I have always liked things like sports or clubs because it is a scheduled time for socializing where when the scheduled time is over it is over. (Of course there is always the risk that someone wants to hang out outside of the event.) Also if you don't show up to something like a sports practice it is not a big deal because other people were there for each other. Having something to do like a game is also less open ended which I like. The last thing I want to do is go to a bar or party where you literally just want to grill me on my life.

  • I dont like humans..the more i meet them ..the more i hate them!

  • Lets fell less lonely together! Post your town and see if someone can hang out!

  • I like *some* people around me but not other *some* people Which is why I prefer to be alone and not alone ;p

  • revolutionary

  • im lonely

  • I wonder why people disliked. There’s probably a good reason behind it but I still wonder..

  • 4,6 dislikes, because they were lonely

  • *laughs in social anxiety*

  • Loneliness Bla, Bla, Bla... We'll know even a rock cant not be lonely if it's rated at 24 carat.. Loneliness directly correlate with your financial ratings....lol. anyone telling you otherwise is trying to tranquilize you with a false perspective, so that you dont activate the Beast Mode, deriving nuclear type unlimited energy from that Loniness & Pain that you have amassed.

  • I'm depressed because I am lonely. I'm ashamed to admit I am lonely. My heart aches for human companionship. I feel it's a sign of weakness. I have had these feelings my entire adult life and I am 56 years old. It never goes away. I would like to have a woman in my life, but I can tell they don't want to have anything to do with me. I'm too ugly, poor, old and boring. It's times like this that I feel so bad that death becomes a feeling of relief.

  • Does living with only a dog help?

  • I am defense i dont really enjoy talking to others. When they think i do enjoy its just one of the many masks i use to hide behind. I dont want them to know the real me because the real me is a wasteland and nothing to go for. My brain is telling me to get under people and talk but my mind says otherwise. I mostly am by myself except in school obviously. In class or in breaks nobody really talks to me except when they need something which only i can solve but when i need something i feel like as if i am invisible or a transparent shell of wasted biological disposable waste which has no use to anyone. I never told anyone of my real thaughts and feelings because i figuered people wouldn't care but i don't want to burden my family with that issue of mine. Its much easier for me to hide behind the internet nobody knows who i am. I sometimes think of ending it this nightmare called life. A gift for many but for me it is punishment for just beeing alive and breathing someone elses air. The reason as to why i prefer to stay alone is because i have enough of people in general. I dont want help from others because i dont want them to know of the real me.

  • Yeah.

  • As always great ep!

  • I love that this is #1 on trending meanwhile everybody instagram looking like they're having the time of their lives. Let's start being real y'all. Much luv to everyone.

  • You are everything that it's good in this world! Thanks.

  • Cut the loose ends. No new friends. So I’m always lonely.

  • This just hit me..spiritually...

  • They should have played Akons Lonely in the background

  • What I figured out from my experiences is that at the end of the day, you are the only one who can help yourself. It’s up to us to decide whether we want to stay in that cycle of unhappiness. Nobody can read our thoughts and magically reach out to us. We have to reach out too. We keep waiting for that moment where people magically reach out to us and notice us. I know it seem incredibly hard but small steps can eventually cover long distances.

  • Me in a nutshell

  • Hope

  • So true

  • Of course this is number 1 in trending you bunch of 13 year olds with your fake ass depression

  • 10:56 top right

  • I really do appreciate this video. I hit another mental block and started to spiral again over the weekend. I was slowly getting out of one that I had a couple months ago and just as soon as I felt I was taking a step forward, I instantly spiraled two steps back. I’ve always had to deal with depression and anxiety for my entire life but I hit moments like these. Moments where my loneliness reaches its peak. Most people feel that being alone and being lonely are the same, but I’m glad you cleared it up for people and even incorporated ways of reaching out or ways to self reflect. This gives me some hope through this rough time and I appreciate all the support you give during topics like these. Thank you🙏🏼

  • im alone too :( but i learn to smile everytime jk i hate myself help

  • People need to stop being lonely

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  • Isolation sucks Im almost 22 and I dont know how to interact in social situations. I just sit there and say awkward shit

  • So well explained and animated! as always! thank you :) I really believe your videos are doing good to people's lives.

  • for the 1% of people seeing this hopefully your dreams come true and not asking for much but I’m trying to hit 3000 subs

  • Who saw MJO advertisement before video?

  • Wow.. The level of scientism and fysicalism is surprising.. well... I guess it isn't. Its just sad.

  • I’m depressed as fuck I’m going to kill myself

  • Everything gots a reason

  • I actually like being alone or "going my own way". I am an introvert but have good social skills and at times I am an extrovert. BUT, being around people for a long period of time is draining. I run like a battery; once I'm drained, I need to recharge (be alone). *Being alone has its perks though.* ... I feel like it all comes down to, finding the "right" people that you can relate to and putting your trust in them because, many people are "fake" (want somebody to entertain them or want to use you for their own selfish needs.) Now, Loneliness is just a "void" *(emotion)* that you want filled. But you can solve that by picking up hobbies, getting a pet, getting into a relationship with others or yourself (if you don't trust others), simple.

  • I don't even know if I'm lonely anymore.....but i am changing shit sad...my heart is so cold

  • Thoughtful, positive, encouraging. What a great video. Thanks Kurzgesagt!

  • Congrats on #2 trending, interesting video

  • This video just made me realize how Lonely I am

  • Really good video, thank you

  • no u

  • Me: *locks my room doesn’t come outside and socialize Me: man I’m so lonely

  • #1 trending